Wednesday, February 23, 2011

The Law of Attraction and Physics




The Law of Attraction says to live in the knowledge that you are getting what you want. It may seem like a feel-good philosophy and nothing more. You might think it is worth considering, but not something that exists in nature. However, the Law of Attraction is based upon the science of physics.





The Law of Attraction and quantum physics shows us that all in the universe is made of energy. This includes both what we call "solid" objects and something as ethereal as thoughts. The truth is that even so-called solid objects have a high percentage of empty space in them. They are made up of energy. The Law of Attraction takes this fact into account.





The Law of Attraction is based upon the fact that the energy in our bodies and minds are always vibrating. This makes wavelengths of different frequencies. We send these frequencies out from ourselves into the larger world.





The world itself-in fact, the whole universe-is all made of energy as well. The whole thing is constantly vibrating. It is always full of possibilities. Our individual frequencies go into this vast ocean of movement. The Law of Attraction can affect this.





Once our frequencies are emitted, they attract frequencies that are like them. So, you are constantly using the Law of Attraction to bring things to you. If you are sending out negative vibrations, you will not like what returns to you. This is because, by the Law of Attraction, those negative frequencies are clumping together with others of their kind.





You can deliberately use the Law of Attraction to focus your thoughts and your being on a positive outcome. The frequencies you emit will stick with other good ones and return to you as a joyful result. This is not simply a matter of wishful thinking.





It involves living in the state you choose for yourself. You don't need to start out with millions of dollars in the bank to feel wealthy. You can think, speak, and act like a millionaire. You just need to believe that's what you are deep inside. The Law of Attraction will do the rest.





You need to feel excited by your choices for the Law of Attraction to work well. That is because the level of excitement determines the level of vibration you are sending out. If you choose something in a half-hearted way, it will return to you in the same way.





However, if you are excited by your choice, you will increase the power of your vibrational frequency. The results will come rolling in. You must do what you can to maintain your excitement. This will bring your dreams into reality by the Law of Attraction.





On the other hand, if you complain about something, or fight against something, that is the thing you will bring to yourself. The Law of Attraction works this way because the universe only has a way of grouping like with like. Your negativity about a subject will return to you as more negative results for that subject.





Several people with doctorates in physics have studied the power of the Law of Attraction. Many of them believe that the mind controls the universe. They believe that this is done through the Law of Attraction.


Laws of Attraction Part IV




How to Compete with the Alpha Male





Throughout nature the female of the species is attracted to the alpha male in the hope that she will be able to bear his offspring-offspring that have the best chance of survival in the cruel world they are going to be brought up in. These females are not looking for a meaningful, long term relationship; a quick interlude, then the privilege of gestation. A fortunate fact, since the alpha male often has a harem and while he protects all of them he does not give any of them his undivided attention.





All of these philosophies hold true to the human alpha male as well. While he is fiercely loyal to the people he defends and will go out of his way not to hurt them neither will he be able to give any of them his heart or the promise of a future. The woman that can pin down the alpha male is a rare specimen indeed. In the meantime, there are many other fish in the sea who are looking for something more than the alpha male has to offer, and it is this population that holds the key to defeating the alpha male's hold on the female of their choice.





A non-alpha male looking for a relationship needs to go into the situation with his eyes wide open; he is going to need to be looking for a permanent relationship but not be expecting one (proposing on the second date is out, regardless of how long you have been dreaming about a woman). The woman who has opted to explore her possibilities other than the alpha male is going to go into the situation cautiously, with an eye towards what the man in question has to offer. This man is going to need to be able to provide her with a secure financial future (if he is in early twenties this can be supplemented with the pursuit of a college education and a realistic ten year plan) as well as give her the emotional security she was lacking with the alpha. If a man is not an alpha male and does not feel that he is in a position to give a great deal of himself to a woman he should not place himself in a situation where that is going to matter (i.e. an actual date). He is going to need to keep it light and friendly to avoid gaining a poor reputation among the females of his acquaintance.





The emotional requirements seen to, let us turn our attention to capturing the eye of a woman. If you are not an alpha male you are not going to have the advantage going into the fight that you would have otherwise, but you are not entirely without resources. Women are attracted to competence. If you can arrange a situation where she can see you doing what you do best (whatever that is) you are going to want to take advantage of this. If you are not in a position where you can establish such a situation (such as approaching a woman in a bar) remember that women love confidence as well.





Don't:





- Stutter



- Drool



- Spill your drink



- Say anything resembling a come-on line





Do:





- Smile (naturally)



- Talk in a normal tone of voice



- Look her in the eye



- Start a conversation. If you have trouble with this one pick any topic related to the situation in which you currently find yourself (the environment, not the part where you are trying to get her attention)



- Walk her to her car at the end of the night



- Get her phone number



- Call her!





If you carefully adhere to these guidelines and allow a relationship to grow between the two of you based on common interest and respect it won't be long before she'll be able to look at you and say, "Alpha who?"


Laws of Attraction Part XIII




Forbidden Attraction Part II





There are many forms of forbidden attraction, many instances in which the feelings that two people have for each other cannot be permitted to hold precedence. There are other occasions in which there is a certain amount of flexibility involved, when the rules can be bent a little bit as long as the relationship is carried out discreetly and away from the public eye.





One of the occasions where there is very little leeway in the freedom to carry out a relationship is between various members of the military; specifically, the relationship between a commanding officer and a subordinate. This is a very difficult situation, particularly in combat groups, because military officers are often together for extended periods of time in situations that can quickly lead to a feeling of closeness that would take months to develop in other situations. When you place your life in the hands of other people on a daily basis you attempt to make it a point to get to know them quickly.





The difficulty in the relationship between a commanding officer and a subordinate one is that it is often difficult to decipher whether the relationship is one that would have developed away from the battlefield or if it is one that developed in the heat of the moment. It is normal for a subordinate officer to develop a hero worship of their CO; the commanding officer is in a position of authority and as such is very much the alpha in the situation. However, a relationship between the two is forbidden because of the discord that it may cause between other members of a working group.





In addition, in a combat situation a team must be able to go forward and focus on their goal, trusting each other to carry their own weight and to complete the mission whatever the cost. If you have a pair of officers in a relationship they will be worrying about the well being of the other; a normal event in ordinary circumstances, but a death wish on occasions where quick thinking and a clear head are required.





After considering the possible consequences and the disciplinary action that will come down on all parties involved it is decided that continuing on with a relationship in these circumstances is very much against the laws of attraction; it is simply not feasible. What, then, can two people do who find themselves in this situation? After all, regardless of rules and regulations it is impossible to control the desires of the heart.





As such, the best advice that they can heed is to wait and be patient. With the number of transfers in the military the day is bound to come when they will no longer be in the same command and will then be free to pursue a relationship. If the relationship had a foundation other than physical attraction and hero-worship to begin with, it will last for this period of time. If waiting is not a possibility, there is always the possibility of one or the other resigning or requesting a transfer. There is a way; however, before making such a momentous decision each party should consider the relationship carefully to ensure that it is worth the possible consequences.


Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Some Fascinating Books on the Law of Attraction




The concepts embodied in the theory called the "Law of Attraction" have been around for centuries, at least. Now, several authors are exploring the subject and writing on it. There are many fascinating books on the Law of Attraction.





One book is simply titled The Law of Attraction. It was written by Esther and Jerry Hicks. These people are informed by a spiritual entity they call "Abraham." This Abraham guides them in instructing people to get what they want by believing in it. The book is based on the principles and the practicalities of the Law of Attraction. When you finish it, you should have an idea of how things come to be. You will understand your role in the making of the events around you.





The Law of Attraction is not for everyone, though. Some are put off because it makes religious references. However, if you want to know what the Law of Attraction is all about, you can find out how to apply it in this book.





Esther and Jerry Hicks have written several books on the Law of Attraction. One is called The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent. This book is all about having balance in your life. It uses the concept of an Emotional Guidance System to explain how you can keep your life on track using the Law of Attraction.





An earlier Hicks book was Ask and It Is Given. This book is a very practical exercise in the work of creating the life you want. It outlines twenty-two processes that can help you use the Law of Attraction to send you on your way. Another book about the Law of Attraction is The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne. This book focuses on the knowledge of these principles being handed down over time. It concentrates on successes of particular people, both past and present.





The people involved in current Law of Attraction thought discuss how the process works. They tell why it works. They tell what it has done for them in their lives. The book is one of the most famous books on the subject.





A fairly new book is Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don't Want. Its author is Michael J Losier. The book talks a lot about vibration, both negative and positive. It is about using Deliberate Attraction to change that vibration to get what you want. It is done in a step-by-step format.







Secrets of Attraction: The Universal Laws of Love, Sex, and Romance, by Sandra Anne Taylor discusses how the Law of Attraction can work for you in your love life. She begins by emphasizing that love is energy, not a feeling. This is a specific use of the Law of Attraction. She speaks of a "personal energy field" that affects the way people perceive you. She explains how this has an influence on the way the people around you react to you. The theory is that if you can change your energy, your love life will change as well.





Of course, there are countless other books on the subject of the Law of Attraction. If you are interested in more, you can go to the library and look up the subject in the on-line catalog. Or, you can just go on the internet to find them. They could change your life.


Laws of Attraction Part II




The Science of Attraction





Have you ever wondered what it was that attracted a man to a woman, or vice versa? What it is about one specific individual that seems to make them irresistible to the opposite sex? Why, when everyone else is sitting home on a Friday night, they can have three dates with plans for breakfast the next morning? There are a number of different factors to be considered, but let us first take a look at the core of the situation: the science of attraction.





The central component in the selection of a mate lies in the evolutionary need to continue the species. In the wild mates that were weak and unable to stand against the elements would produce weak offspring who might not be able to survive the harsh environment they would be thrust into; that is, of course, assuming they survived to adulthood themselves. The inability of their offspring to survive would lead to the end of the species; therefore, they were rarely chosen by members of the opposite sex for reproductive purposes.





On the other hand, strong mates would breed strong offspring. It was primarily the males and females who had proved themselves in battle that attracted the greatest number of possible mates; they would then choose from the strongest of those, and Mother Nature's endless circle would go on, with genetics ensuring that their children were given the best opportunity to make a start in life. This is the reason that physically fit individuals receive the most attention from member of the opposite sex; it is an inbred attraction to those that are considered to be the most able physically to survive in their environment.





Strength and survival of the fittest aside there is also the matter of pheromones. Pheromones are chemically secreted molecules that are produced and carried through an airborne route, causing an incredible sexual response in animals. The belief is that it allowed the animal to locate a mate with whom they would have the greatest likelihood of producing an offspring with a strong immune system. It was previously believed that humans had lost the ability to be attracted by pheromones; however, recent studies have shown that this may not necessarily be the case. A great deal of research in the role that pheromones play in human attraction is not yet available, as it is still a matter of speculation.





The bottom line is that all scientific evidence pertaining to the attraction of one human to another lies in the potential to produce strong offspring. Pheromones will grant a child the best possible combination of immune systems to guarantee their well being. Physical attraction guarantees that the child will have the best chance of physically surviving to grow to adulthood. All in all, the scientific evidence present to support the baseline upon which all human attraction is based would appear to support the theory of survival of the fittest.


The Laws of Attraction and Finances




What if you didn't have to live payday to payday? What if you had all the money you wanted instead of overwhelming debt? Maybe that sounds too good to be true. However, the Laws of Attraction can change your financial outlook forever.





One part of the Laws of Attraction is that you get things according to the energy you put out into the world. The universe will respond to it and send it back. For example, one person might go to the mailbox and say, "I hope I don't get too many bills today." Another person might say, "I wonder who's sending me money today."





Who do you think will have a better mail day, on the average? The Laws of Attraction say that the person who sends out the negative energy of worry and fear will get more to worry about and fear in return. The person who is positive will get things to be joyful about, according to the Laws of Attraction. In this case, he/she has a certain likelihood to actually get money in the mail.





Money itself may be one of the more difficult things to get through the Laws of Attraction. This is not because the Laws of Attraction don't work as well. It's just because it's hard to be passionate about money itself. It is easier to get excited about the things money buys.





The Laws of Attraction work hundreds of times better if you are very passionate about something. This translates into a high level of positive energy, or vibration, that you are emitting into the universe. It works to make things happen quickly. If you can get that excited about money itself, then the Laws of Attraction can bring you the money you desire.





More likely, the things you will be the most enthusiastic about will not be little green slips of paper. They will be vacations, houses, cars, maybe even airplanes. These things will excite you if you allow yourself to dream about them. Then the Laws of Attraction can help you to get them.





If you want to use the Laws of Attraction, one way to intensify your desires is to find some visual way to make them real. Take pictures of the things you want. Post them around your house where you will see them often. Because the Laws of Attraction will bring you more of the energy you send out, make sure the images in your home are conducive to a positive outlook.





Only when you are clear about exactly what you want can the Laws of Attraction work for you. Sometimes, you can't actually take a picture. Sometimes it is easier to go through magazines and find pictures and descriptions of what it is you want. Cut them out and hang them up. The more, the better. The Laws of Attraction in the universe will respond to your desires.





Then, too, you can seek out your dreams by going on homes tours and test driving cars. Whatever you can do to put yourself in contact with the reality of your dreams helps. It makes the Laws of Attraction work for you. People say that money doesn't buy happiness. It's true that money alone can't make you happy. However, if you use the Laws of Attraction to improve your financial situation, that can only be a good thing.


Monday, February 21, 2011

Laws of Attraction Part XV




And in Conclusion...





There are a great many laws of attraction which must be followed in order to find success in all areas of your life, and violation of these laws can have many unpleasant results, many of which do not have a statute of limitations with regards to time. For this reason, it is important to ensure that you are well educated in all of the laws of attraction, regardless of their pertinence to your current lifestyle.





The first thing which you must remember is that the laws of human attraction are very similar to those still in effect in nature. Survival of the fittest is the guideline that animals use to determine the suitability of their mate; the mate possessing the greatest strength is most likely to produce strong offspring that will be able to survive on their own in the unforgiving world they are going to find themselves thrust into. Therefore, the mate which has the greatest reputation in battle and the highest position of authority within the pack is going to be the one that is most desired.





In the case of males this individual is going to be the alpha male (the alpha female effect does not seem to carry over into the human world as much as that of the alpha male). The alpha male is the "leader of the pack". He will have proven himself in battle many times over. In the human world, this is going to be the individual who is at the forefront of his particular area of expertise and will generally have a great deal of wealth and reputation to provide support to their position. There are many types of alpha males in the human world; this is not a position solely restricted to the heads of major corporations (as many leaders in the business industry would have you believe).





If you find yourself in competition with an alpha for the attentions of the object of your affection there are a number of measures you can take to ensure that you come out on top; after all, although the alpha may be the most desirable they are often unable to commit to a relationship, saving their passion for their work. By taking all possible measures to ensure that you are placing your best foot forward when you are introduced to someone new and being willing to commit a great deal of yourself to a relationship you will find that not being an alpha is not necessarily a black mark against you.





The ability of polar opposites to attract is just as present in the human world as it is in nature; these opposites often complete each other, bringing balance and harmony to a relationship. Anyone who is attempting to form a relationship with their polar opposite is going to have to work very hard not to pressure their other half for change after the relationship has begun; it was their very difference that attracted you to them in the first place. If you do not feel that you can live with these differences it is better to accept that the relationship is lost than to attempt to place excessive pressure on both of you before the relationship disintegrates of its own accord.





It is important to remember that not all cultures have the same laws of attraction. Before entering into a multi-ethnic relationship it is important to learn more about the other person's culture to avoid unintentionally causing offense. If you are able to follow all of these laws you will soon find yourself succeeding in all areas of attraction.


Laws of Attraction Part X




Dress for Success





Appearance is the key factor in attracting others to you. Shallow, but true. The first impression anyone will ever make about you is based upon your appearance, and your appearance is determined in large by the type of clothing that you wear. Your clothing should give the impression both of who you are and who you want to be.





The most important part of using your appearance to create a positive first impression is to appear clean and neat. No one is attracted to a slob; a lack of attention to self is often indicative to a general apathy with regards to other people and life in general. In addition, keep in mind that members of the opposite sex are most attracted to the individuals that they believe to be at the top of the metaphorical food chain. Needless to say, no one is going to believe that you are at the top of the food chain if you look like you cannot get yourself dressed without your mother's assistance. Your clothes should be clean, neat and properly fit in order to present the image of yourself as someone who cares about themselves and their belongings-and by default, the people that are around them (after all, you can care about yourself and not care about those around you, but it is very rare to care about those around you and not care a bit about yourself.)





This should by no means be taken to mean that you have to spend a small fortune on a wardrobe or take three hours getting dressed in the morning in order to ensure that you have the appearance of a runway model every time that you leave your home. That is impractical and does not allow the essence of your own personality to shine through. It is possible to attract the attention of the opposite sex in comfortable clothes, and for most people jeans and sweatshirts are much more comfortable for daily wear than their dress clothes. It is merely important to assure that these clothes do not make you appear to care more about comfort than you do about how you look.





If you are unsure about how to take your own taste in clothes and use it to maximize your appearance there are a wide assortment of resources at your disposal. Sales clerks, particularly of retail establishments that only deal in clothing, are trained to have a good eye for the size, color and style that will do the most to enhance their customer's appearance. Most people do not truly know what looks good on them, and what seems appealing in the store dressing room often loses its appeal when it is placed in ordinary circumstances. If a customer is not happy with the way that their clothing makes them appear they are likely to blame the store (after all, it could not possibly their own fault) which will cost the store business. On the other hand, if the sales clerk is able to steer a customer towards the perfect ensemble they will bring their business back.





There is never a second chance to make a first impression, and if that first impression is a negative one you are likely to have a great deal of difficulty in convincing the object of your affection to reconsider; therefore, the best thing you can do is make sure that you have taken all possible measures to ensure that you place your best foot forward when stepping into the dating pool.


Famous Law of Attraction Personalities




According to the Law of Attraction, all things are possible to those who can believe and visualize them. Different speakers and writers have slightly different takes on the basic principles of the Law of Attraction. These famous Law of Attraction personalities have a lot to say about the subject.





One Law of Attraction speaker and teacher is Jack Canfield. Most people know of his Chicken Soup for the Soul, etc. books. He has also been teaching success strategies to people and businesses for three decades.





If you listen to Canfield, you will accept that your thinking, feelings, and actions will work together to make your life what it is. This will happen if you are in a good state of being or a bad one. You get what you put out there. That's the Law of Attraction.





The Reverend Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith has been working with a spiritual version of the Law of Attraction since 1986. It was then that he started up the Agape Center. This center is something like a church, but is not exactly one.





The Agape Center is built around the concept that if you want good things for the world, you will help to make them happen. This could happen when you suddenly get an inspiration to do something to help people. His goal is to make the world a better place by using principles such as the Law of Attraction.





There is one man, Dr. Joe Vitale, who takes a rather hard line on the Law of Attraction. He is of the opinion that you bring to yourself all that happens to you. This can be a horrible wreck or a fire. It doesn't matter. If it's in your life, you created it. Of course, he gives credit for the good things you bring yourself as well.





An interesting character in the study of the Law of Attraction is Dr. Fred Alan Wolf. This man has been studying theoretical physics for over forty years. His specialty now is quantum physics and how it relates to the mind. He studies this with the Law of Attraction in mind. He also won a National Book Award in 1982 for Taking the Quantum Leap, which is based on this type of study.





There is a therapist that is fairly well known for her work with the Law of Attraction. Her name is Jayne Payne. She sees patients who are bogged down in the misery of their past. All they can see is what they need. She helps them to forget that and believe in what they want by using the Law of Attraction.





Esther and Jerry Hicks have written several books on the subject of the Law of Attraction. They have made names for themselves by speaking for a being of sorts they call Abraham-Hicks. To some, it sounds a little unusual, but others feel enlightened by the books.





Jerry first became interested in related subjects. Then, Esther eventually followed his lead. Soon, they were completely involved in the movement. Now, the Hickses teach seminars and lecture. Of course, they continue to write works on the Law of Attraction.





The Law of Attraction has been an important source of discussion for many years. Before it was ever thought about in the way it is now, it was referred to by great leaders for centuries. There is an abundance of people willing to speak of it now. So, it is certain that the concept will live on for generations to come.


Sunday, February 20, 2011

Gratitude and the Law of Attraction




If the Law of Attraction works, you will surely be grateful for all that you receive as a result of practicing it. Life will be easier and more abundant. However, you actually need to start out with a feeling of gratitude before you can expect good things to come. This is what the Law of Attraction is about. When you believe fantastic things are already happening for you, you will be grateful. According to the Law of Attraction, it is important to believe. Furthermore, being grateful for something you believe is happening sends out positive vibrations into the universe. This brings the good things to you by way of the Law of Attraction.





Without even thinking of the future, you can use the Law of Attraction to draw the positive things to you. If you are thankful for the things in your life, you will be focused in on the good energy inherent in your grateful mind. The Law of Attraction is evident in the way being grateful brings you more to be grateful for. Think of the way things snowball, both the good and the bad. You might wake up in a bad mood because you resent a noisy neighbor for keeping you up late. If you let that bad mood win out, more negative things will continue to happen to you all day long. When you consider the Law of Attraction, you will see why this happens.





If, however, you brush off the bad feelings and replace them with gratitude you will be surprised at how much better your day will go. Use the Law of Attraction to help you along. You may be thankful that you woke up beside your loving spouse, or you might be grateful that you have a job to go to. Whatever it is, the Law of Attraction will make it work for you.





So, the Law of Attraction works on a system of gratitude and reward. You need a way to remind yourself to always be grateful for the good things in your life. Some people set aside a certain time each day to list the things they're thankful for. They might compile them in a journal and look over them all from time to time.





The Law of Attraction is built on good habits. You can carry some sort of talisman. It can be anything from a rock to a coin. It can be anything you will handle daily. Some people put these items in their pockets. Some put them on a string around their necks. The idea is that every time you touch it, you feel gratitude. If at all possible, you express that gratitude to others. Your mind will become geared towards thinking in terms of what you are thankful for. This will allow the Law of Attraction to do its work.





Your mind controls who and what you are. According to the Law of Attraction, it can also change what you have. This may be material possessions, relationships, or health. If you are in a mindset of gratitude, you are in a position to make the Law of Attraction bring to you all that you desire.


The Law of Attraction and Your Body




The Law of Attraction has worked for many people who sought to gain financial freedom. It has helped many to experience fuller lives through better relationships. The Law of Attraction can also have a profound affect on your body.





Think first of how the Law of Attraction works. You are made up of energy and the energy you send out is positive or negative. This will depend upon whether you focus on the good things in life or the bad.





This will not only affect others, but it will affect you as well. If you want to send out positive energy, you will want to concentrate on the upbeat things in your life. One way to use the Law of Attraction to do this is visualization.





Athletes use a form of seeing what future actions will hold. This technique is called Visual Motor Rehearsal. These athletes are practicing the Law of Attraction. They can be hooked up to all kinds of monitors and then practice an athletic event in their minds.





The monitors will show that their muscles obey their thoughts even though they are not being actively used. Then, when it comes time to actually do the activity, they are very much prepared. This is the Law of Attraction.





With the Law of Attraction, you can feel the reality of your plans and dreams coming true. This can be done in the same way as the athletes do it, by visualization. This can help you with a physical task you are about to undertake.





You might be planning to climb Mt. Everest or simply swim your first lap around the pool. If you can use the Law of Attraction to visualize it and believe the results, you can make it happen. Your positive feelings about accomplishing a difficult undertaking will come back to you in the form of positive energy for you.





The Law of Attraction has also been used for healing. No one suggests that medicine should not be used. However, thought among those who lecture and write about the Law of Attraction is that the medicine can be helped immensely by the use of positive energy.





The placebo effect should prove that thinking can influence your health. If people feel good about a medicine they are being given, they will more likely be healed by it. This is true whether the medicine is a highly developed scientific formula or a sugar pill.





Some conditions require much treatment and medication. People with these conditions often get depressed or discouraged. If they can keep their focus on positive things, they have a better chance of survival. Knowing the Law of Attraction can help them to do this.





Part of using the Law of Attraction to heal is to visualize the process of getting better. As you come to believe you are getting better, it turns out that you actually do. Another way to use the Law of Attraction is to dwell on the good by surrounding yourself with things you enjoy. This will keep the focus on the positive energy.





The Law of Attraction is not only good for your wallet. It can help other aspects of your life, too. If you have a physical challenge to overcome, the Law of Attraction can help you.


Laws of Attraction Part XI




After the Attraction





Catching the interest of the person you are interested in is only half of the battle in emerging at the top of the dating totem pole. Now that you have their interest, what are you going to do about it?





In the interest of the fact that the world is now a giant melting pot of many different cultures it is important to understand that it may not be as simple as inquiring whether the object of your affection has an interest in joining you for dinner and drinks later on that evening. Different cultures have different rules about dating, and a violation of any of these existent mores can serve to make you an object of distaste and ridicule in the eyes of the very person you want most to impress.





Of course, most individuals understand that not all cultures have the same opinions of the relationship between a man and a woman and therefore are less likely to be offended by any minor missteps; however, it is still vital that you understand the cultural guidelines of the person you are interested in.





Americans have a much looser view on the position of dating than is held by many other countries. Physical contact on the first date is permitted, albeit of a chaste nature; holding hands and kissing good-night at the end of the evening is to be expected if both parties are interested (if both parties are not interested it could prove to be a long and uneventful evening). Many eastern nations, such as Korea, permit dating, even at a young age; however, public expressions of affection of a physical nature are frowned upon in many cases; these individuals may not be comfortable with kissing or hugging in public, particularly in front of strangers. Other countries do not encourage dating at all; if a man and a woman are interested in each other it is expected that the ultimate goal of their relationship should be marriage, with every step made with that intent in mind.





There are also many cultures who insist that the family play a large role in determining who another family member will date. It is assumed that whomever they are interested in will take the time to get to know the family and to participate in family events. To do otherwise would be considered rude and insulting. Other cultures do not consider it appropriate for a person that is interested in a member of the family to attend a family gathering until the relationship is established as a permanent one.





Obviously, there are many pitfalls involved in attempting to form a relationship across cultural divides. The most important step that an individual can do if they are interested in dating an individual from another country is to learn the steps of their courtship dance in order to avoid stepping on any toes.


Saturday, February 19, 2011

Laws of Attraction Part V




Choosing a Mate





In the wilds the process of choosing a mate is determined entirely by their physical properties; their strength, their courage and their ability to hunt and provide for their family. These principles still apply in many cases throughout the human world; however, since our minds are much more developed than those of our animal brethren there are other factors that should be considered.





The practice of choosing a mate based on their ability to provide for a family is an important one, and while that ability in the human world is not judged by their ability to go out and hunt wild game it is judged on their ability to meet their responsibilities. The amount of responsibility that you are looking for in a mate should be determined by your expectations for your future. If you are attempting to retire at a young age you are going to want a mate who is willing to help you work and sacrifice for that goal.





On the other hand, if you want to start a family you are going to want to choose a mate who is willing to carry their part of their home responsibilities and possibly put future career advancements on hold. If you are a free-spirit content to go through life as a free-spirit you are going to want to find a mate who shares the same viewpoints you do. Whatever the case, you are going to need to choose a mate who is going to be willing to hold up their half of your future together. While a mate who is undecided as to their path in life and is content to depend on you to make your way may still be enjoyable at the beginning, over time you will come to resent the extra strain that constant worry over financial matters will bring.





Another point to be considered is common interest. Sometimes opposites do attract, a happening that will be discussed in greater detail a bit later on, but as a general rule relationships have a better chance of survival if the parties involved have many key values and interests in common. This does not mean that the two of you need to be identical images of one another; if you did not have differing opinions what would the two of you talk about? On the other hand, if you do not enjoy some of the same activities, what will the two of you do on Friday night? More important than these trivialities is the need for a shared image of your future. While attraction is fine and good at the beginning the relationship is doomed to failure if you cannot chart a common path.





Choosing a mate is not an endeavor that should be taken lightly; choosing incorrectly could result in a life of misery for all parties involved. Take the time to carefully consider what it is that you want in a mate before embarking on the journey.


The Law of Attraction and Relationships




It has been said that the Law of Attraction can manifest itself in matters of wealth, health, and happiness. Part of the happiness is having fulfilling relationships. These can be romantic love relationships or familial relationships or simple friendships. The Law of Attraction affects them all.





Whether you are trying to put the Law of Attraction to use in your life or not, it is always at work. You are always putting out vibrations into the universe. They are always collecting with like energies and coming back to you.





The difference when you deliberately use the Law of Attraction is that you focus on the things you want. Then, these positive things return to you. What you give your attention to is what becomes important in your life.





Once something becomes important to you, you will develop an excitement about it. That excitement will turn into a power that is greater than any you can drum up by simply repeating words about what you want. The Law of Attraction works in relationships as well as it does in anything else.





By deliberately using the Law of Attraction, you can find that special person you are looking for. One step is to determine what it is you want from a mate. Make a list. Write down strengths you would like the person to have. Write down joys you would like to share.





Once you have a more concrete idea of what you want, the universe will bring you to your mate through the Law of Attraction. This will happen through matching of frequencies. You send out the frequency of what you want. That vibration goes out and collects with other frequencies like it. In other words, it matches.





When your frequency is vibrating in concert with another frequency, it will only be a matter of time before you meet someone. The Law of Attraction will be at work. At this point, you should follow your hunches. If you have the urge to do something on a different schedule than usual, then do it. This may be how you find your mate.





Just let the Law of Attraction do its work. Continue to reaffirm in your mind the fact that the person you are looking for exists. Believe that you will find that person. Draw your attention and excitement to the subject. Things will happen.





Other relationships work on the theory of matching as well. You put out energy towards a person in your life. That energy can be for or against them. Whatever energy you send them will match whatever energy in them that is like that frequency. You will get the result you expect. This is the Law of Attraction.





If you are feeling down, the Law of Attraction will supply you with a companion in despair. As the two of you spiral down, you will be better off if you decide to let the Law of Attraction work for you instead of against you. Find ways that your frequencies can vibrate in harmony in a positive way. This will strengthen and lengthen friendships like nothing else.





Your relationships can develop into more than they ever were before. Your friendships can be deeper. You can live in harmony with your relatives. Your love interests can become life-long partners. The Law of Attraction can make it all come true.


Basic Law of Attraction Concepts




If there is a secret in the universe that can bring you good things, it could be the Law of Attraction. This can bring you happiness, wealth, and physical well-being. You only have to know how to apply it. A few basic concepts of the Law of Attraction can help you on your way.





One of the concepts central to the Law of Attraction is that the things you think become reality. The things you think are energy, just as the entire universe is energy. As you ponder your reality, or simply let thoughts run through your mind, you are shaping your reality. You do this by means of the Law of Attraction. The energy you send out collects with like energy. Then, the universe responds to your feelings by returning the energy back to you. This happens for good or bad feelings.





Another basic concept is that it is too difficult to monitor every one of some 60,000 thoughts you have every day. The goal, instead, should be to foster a feeling of happiness, gratitude, and well-being. This will go further than trying to change every thought individually. Feelings are important to the Law of Attraction.





One assumption of users of the Law of Attraction is that life is meant to be joyous and fulfilling. Many people feel that their lives can be no more than difficult work situations, unhappy relationships, poor health, and a mountain of debt. Unless these people change their attitudes, they can never know the abundance they can get through the Law of Attraction.





There can never be a lack of anything that you want if you follow the Law of Attraction. This is another concept of the movement. It means that there is enough for everyone to have what they want. This is especially true because some people want certain things and other people want something else. According to the Law of Attraction, what you want is always possible. One concept of the Law of Attraction can be stated as something like, "what you get is what you see." What this means in this case is that when you see a result, you will vibrate with energy based on that result. If you see good, you will send out good energy.





This energy will return to you in the form of more positive results. So, if you want positive results, you need to find a way to see the good in situations. This is how the Law of Attraction works. If you see good, more good will return to you. The concept of asking for particular things is a part of the Law of Attraction. When you command the universe to give you what you want, you can get it. To do this, you must believe in it. Then, you must accept it as if you had already gotten it. Then you will find the Law of Attraction bringing all kinds of good things your way.





The Law of Attraction is at once both simple and complex. You must only ask and receive. Yet, to do that in confidence, you must work to restructure your whole way of thinking. To do this it is good to study the concepts of the Law of Attraction.


Friday, February 18, 2011

Laws of Attraction Part VII




Myths of Attraction





When studying the laws of attraction it is essential that we take a moment to lay to rest a number of the myths which have invaded our reality over the past several decades. In an effort to make a profit a number of retailers have developed their own ideas about precisely what leads a person to be attracted to another, a number of which are so untrue as to be ludicrous but have enough of a following to cause a great deal of discouragement to the general public. Listed below are a few of the most common "Myths of Attraction" circulating the public consciousness today.





1. You must be rich and powerful to be found attractive





2. Your body must be perfect for another person to find it attractive. As was stated in earlier articles the attraction to a physically fit body is a carryover from the animal kingdom; an individual who was physically fit would stand the best chance of survival and would give birth to strong offspring. Fortunately, since the human mind is more developed than that of the animal kingdom this is not the only consideration used when humans are choosing a mate.





3. For women, the body type typically seen only in those who are very petite or suffering from an eating disorder is the figure that they should strive to attain (at least, that is what all the manufacturers who only make clothing in the latest style in a size six or smaller seem to believe).





4. Your clothing must be of the highest caliber and carry a designer tag





5. You must possess the intelligence of Albert Einstein





6. Charm and the ability to attract a mate is inherited; however, with enough money any skill can be bought





7. Showering someone with gifts is the best way to tell them that you are interested. This will be nice for a day or two, then they will begin to wonder what it is that you want or what it is that you are not willing to give them that you are attempting to compensate for. Bestowing gifts at infrequent (but regular) intervals will ensure continued appreciation.





8. By employing certain "secrets" interested parties will come to you rather than you having to approach them. These are doomed to failure; there is no substitution for personal effort when it come to attracting a potential mate.





All of these myths are intended to bring in a profit for the companies which propagate them; therefore, they do not want you to know the truth. The secret to attracting the attention of another individual lies within you, no one else, and no amount of money is going to change that fact.


The Laws of Attraction Part I




An Introduction





Every game in life has rules. In soccer you cannot use your hands. You cannot peak at your opponent's hand in poker. You cannot look in the dictionary when you play Scrabble. Each and every one of these rules is considered to be set in stone, yet each rule has a condition under which it may be broken.





The dating game is much the same. There are an established set of rules for capturing the attention of the person you've been dreaming of, and what to do with them once you have them. These rules are all iron clad, yet each has a condition under which they can be broken. Pity the man who is not familiar with the laws of attraction; a violation of these rules carries consequences of shame and loneliness. Not all of these rules are written in any resource available to the general public; some are general knowledge and some are only known by the individuals to whom they pertain. Anyone attempting to enter the scene from the outside needs to be educated on the rules of each game before they decide to throw their hat into the ring.





The laws of attraction are based primarily on a principal of supply and demand. If there is a large supply of mates the laws of attraction are firmly in effect; after all, each individual can afford to be a bit more choosy when selecting their particular companion. If there is a low supply of mates the demand will be high, and the laws of attraction will allow for a bit more leeway; after all, if a mate cannot be found than the species will eventually die off (the "last man on earth" philosophy; rest assured that if you were really the last man on earth she would be happy to date you).





The theory of supply and demand is visible throughout all walks of life. It is exclusive to none. This is seen throughout the animal kingdom, the insect kingdom, among the birds and the bees and the fish. Each species has a particular criteria by which they judge their mates, and each criteria has an exception. Throughout the animal kingdoms it is generally a matter of a lack of mates, as was illustrated in the principal of supply and demand. Fortunately, as humans populate a majority of the Earth's surface the criteria for bending the laws of human attraction are not so strict as to require the elimination of the species.





Throughout the rest of this series of articles we will touch on the various laws of attraction-and how to get around them. Each article will stand alone for any who join us in the middle but together will serve as a guide to negotiate even the most complicated of situations to attract the perfect mate.


How to Practice the Laws of Attraction




Imagine that you had all the money you could ever want. You had great relationships and perfect health. Imagine you spent your life in peace and joy. If you practice the Laws of Attraction, these things can come true for you. The first thing you must do to practice the Laws of Attraction is to embrace a feeling of gratitude. Be thankful for everything that you have. Focusing on the good things in your life will help you key in on positive feelings.





These positive feelings will translate into a positive energy, according to the Laws of Attraction. When you send out this kind of positive energy, you will see good things come back to you in return through the Laws of Attraction. You can concentrate on the positive things by holding some kind of talisman in your pocket, for example. This will help you remember to be thankful every time you touch it.





Another thing to do in practicing the Laws of Attraction is to become aware of what kinds of thoughts you are having. Most people go through the day with thoughts flitting in and out of their heads. They pay them little heed. If you are aware of the Laws of Attraction, you can monitor your thoughts to a certain degree. You can get a feel for just what direction your thoughts are going. Are they leading you toward a negative situation? If so, it's time to use the Laws of Attraction to change all that.





Figure out what it is that you want. Don't limit yourself to easy things to get, either. The universe gives out no different effort to give you a little thing than it does to give you something that is fantastic. So, go for your dreams. The Laws of Attraction can supply them.





Maybe you don't really know what you want. You've been told for so long that you can't have it that you've stopped wanting it. It's time to do some soul searching and really find out what you could get through the Laws of Attraction that would please you. Look through catalogs and go to showroom floors and model houses. You might get some ideas. Once you become excited about something, your positive energy will become all the more powerful through the Laws of Attraction.





Once you know what you want, it's simple. Just ask for it. Say it, write it, and believe in it. Think of it as if it has already happened. Imagine that it has, using the Laws of Attraction. Don't do this in a whimsical, "gee wouldn't it be swell" way, but actually close your eyes and visualize it. Don't expect to know the method by which your dreams will come true. The Laws of Attraction don't work that way. You just need to trust that a good thing will happen, and leave the "how" up to the universe.





Knowing the Laws of Attraction can change your life. It takes a certain mindset to work with the Laws of Attraction, but it is not hard to master. It just takes some time, patience, and most of all, a lot of faith.


Thursday, February 17, 2011

Laws of Attraction Part XIV




Consequences





Every action in nature has an opposite and equal reaction. Every move that we make stimulates a consequence; it is up to us to determine what the price of that consequence will be. Not all consequences are bad. The flowers grow as a consequence of the rain coming down and the sun coming out. That is not a negative consequence. On the other hand, some consequences come at a very high price. Those consequences carry many negative effects.





The same is true regarding the laws of attraction. If you follow the laws they will help you to find gratification (perhaps even happiness) beyond your wildest dreams; however, there is a price to pay for breaking them, and it is not a price that many are willing to pay. This is not as simple as a weekend spent in jail or picking up litter from the side of the road; the consequences for breaking the rules of attraction will follow you throughout the course of your life. Listed below you will find the negative consequences associated with breaking the laws of attraction.





- You grow old, fat and bald alone





- You will have a gang of Hell's Angels chasing you across the countryside





- You will find yourself married and raising a family in Backwater, Kansas following a shotgun wedding





- You will be out of a job and a reference (particularly if you decided to break in the boss's desk)





- You will find yourself tossed in the brig prior to your court martial





- You will have an irate husband (or wife) stalking you





- You will find yourself king or queen of a small country in the middle of the South Pacific-with no other inhabitants



(think Pirates of the Caribbean)





- You will be humiliated with tales of your own escapades every time you mistakenly choose to spend a weekend with family and friends





- You will no longer be invited to spend Friday nights at Happy Hour





- You will no longer be invited to any of the office parties





- You may end up sleeping in a barn rather than in the warmth of the house-and your own bed





- You will never again be able to walk into your favorite restaurant with your head erect





- You will never be able to look any of your friends in the eye again





- You will not be able to remain friends with your old friends-it would just be too weird





- There will be strange men and women calling your home at all hours





- There will be strange packages left on your stoop-daily





- You may find yourself on the business end of a boot-or a 9mm





These are only a small portion of the consequences which may be extracted for daring to violate the laws of attraction. Okay, so chances are that if you happen to take a misstep or two along the way you will not find yourself in any of these extraordinarily unpleasant situations; however, the possibility does exist. It is essential that you carefully weigh the possibilities before entering the ring.


Laws of Attraction Part XII




Forbidden Attraction





There are many situations in which a man and a woman may meet and develop an interest in other, not all of which loan themselves to the development of a stable relationship. There are some occasions upon which a man and a woman may meet and become attracted to one another but not be able to act upon these feelings. What can you do when you are the victim of a forbidden attraction?





There are many situations in which an attraction may be forbidden, and each has a different set of established protocol. Let us start with the most common case of forbidden attraction. The person you are attracted to is already in a relationship with someone else. The question that must be considered here is how serious their relationship is. If they are merely casually dating with the understanding that they can each see other people if they so desire there is no reason to allow this to stop you from acting upon your interest. On the other hand, if the relationship is an exclusive one it is better to establish a friendship and wait for that relationship to run its course than to attempt to act too soon.





If the man or woman who has caught your eye is married and living in a monogamous relationship with their spouse it is better to step aside than to continue to pursue the relationship. The chances are good that they will not choose to end their marriage for you and there is only so long that an affair can continue without someone getting hurt. It is not always the spouse of the other individual who finds themselves the victim of this situation; do you really want to go home at night knowing that the person you are dreaming of will be returning to someone else's bed?





Another obstacle is often the rules against fraternization in the workplace. There are many obstacles to step around in this situation and company policy should be carefully considered. If company policy merely discourages dating among its employees, you are dating a fellow employee and the two of you are capable of getting the job done without putting on a great show for your co-workers there is no reason that this relationship cannot be pursued with discretion. Bear in mind, however, that even after the end of the relationship the two of you are going to have to work together. If this is not something that you feel comfortable doing it is better to maintain a friendship with that individual and evaluate your feelings at such a time as one or both of you are ready to search for new employment.





There are many other types of forbidden attraction, and these will continue to be discussed a bit later on in this collection; however, these two are the most common and should be handled with a great deal of care.