Laws of Attraction Part III The Alpha Male Mentality

In nature the attraction between mates is determined by a philosophy of survival of the fittest. The mate that is chosen is the one that is most likely to breed strong, healthy offspring. In many animal societies the alpha male will be the only male in the pack, and it will be his job to impregnate the females in order for the species to survive.

Many of the male members of the human world look upon this strange situation with a small touch of wistfulness. What would it be like to have your own harem? What they cannot see is that the alpha male has become the alpha male not by birthright but by having proved over and over again that he is strong enough and intelligent enough to lead the pack-and to keep it. When the alpha male is challenged by another male for possession of his pack he must fight to keep it or it will be taken away from him. This is, again, to ensure that the species survives; the one who wins the right to be an alpha male is the one most likely to father strong offspring.

Of course, that's all very good for the animal kingdom, but how does this pertain to the human world? Simple. Humans have their alpha males too, the criteria by which they are classified is just a bit different. There are many different ways by which a male can be classified as alpha.

- The powerful alpha. This is the man who wields the most power, both in their place of business and among their community of friends. Women who are attracted to this type of alpha have probably fixed their sites on a business tycoon or a politician, if not royalty. These women want position and the power that it brings.

- The intellectual alpha. These are the men who are able to provide brilliant dissertations on any topic. These will probably go forth to receive PhDs and save the world. Most of these will be found spending their lives in their offices or laboratories working side by side with their mates.

- The military alpha. Women love a man in uniform, and the more bars and stripes he happens to be sporting the better. These men have power, a sense of adventure and incredible stories to tell over the dinner table (assuming, of course, that the majority of the conversations they have about their lives do not contain the words, "That's classified"). Their mates can also count on them to be out of the country for the better part of the year so that a livable harmony never has to be developed.

- The "bad boy" alpha. This alpha takes many forms. He may be military or law enforcement-black ops or undercover, of course. He will have a shady past that he never reveals and at least one criminal element has issued a price on his head. He will wear black and not converse a great deal, assuming that the women he is with will know what it is that he wants.

- The artistic alpha. This will be the man who sells his paintings in a downtown museum but has had showings in Italy and France. He will have a small cottage on the beach and he and whoever his lady of the moment is will spend their days (and nights) home eating strawberries dipped in chocolate and reciting poetry to each other.

Sound familiar? Every man in the world has known someone who fits into one of these categories and every woman has wanted to date one. They are the few, the proud, the alpha males.

Problems People Have with the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction seems so easy for some. Others try and try and have no success. They wonder why this should be true. There are some very good reasons why people have problems using the Law of Attraction.

The most obvious answer to the question of why it isn't working is that you might be expecting to instantaneously have what you ask for. You have to realize that you are simply sending out positive energy surrounding a subject. You must trust Law of

Attraction to send it back to you in its time.

When trying to use the Law of Attraction, you may find that you are always tapping your foot and asking when it's going to happen for you. If you do, it may mean that you are not really coming into it believing in anything. You are just testing the waters and not willing to commit to anything.

You might also be expecting the answer to your demands to come by a certain method. For example, you might ask for money. You are hoping someone will just give it to you. This may be your idea of the Law of Attraction. However, if you are alert to the universe around you, you may come across another means.

An idea might come to you that would bring you the money you desire. It might involve some work, but the end result would be the same. If your energy is positive, you will look upon this circumstance with gratitude and joy. By the Law of Attraction, this can only multiply the good in your life.

Another mistake people make in using the Law of Attraction is to put too much emphasis on the evidence they see. When they see things that seem to prove that the Law of Attraction is not working, they quit believing. They get frustrated and become a mass of negative vibrations. This will bring more of the same.

The truth is that if they really understand the Law of Attraction and the science behind it, external evidence will have little effect on them. This is because they will have total belief and trust that the Law of Attraction has been working all along. What is happening in the beginning is only a manifestation of earlier bad energy.

Their new positive, focused thoughts, without doubt, will come to fruition in the future. This is the outlook of a person who has mastered the use of the Law of Attraction. That person will believe in the outcome because he/she believes in the process.

A person might also have problems fully using the Law of Attraction because their past outlook has been so limited. They have strong emotions about things they consider too hard to conquer or too much or too big to have.

When these emotions come up, it changes the energy you are sending out. Lecturers and writers of the Law of Attraction have developed ways to release such emotions. These methods allow the person to fully use the Law of Attraction.

If you properly use the Law of Attraction, you will have what you want. It is and isn't easy. You only need to change the way you think and feel about things. If you can come to understand the Law of Attraction fully, you can make it work for you.

Laws of Attraction Part VIII

The Law of Attraction

Let us take a moment to consider the actual "Law of Attraction" and the role it plays in human attraction. The Law of Attraction was developed by members of the New Age Movement who were exploring the potential of the human mind over the body's future. The Law of Attraction states that "you get what you think about; your thoughts determine your destiny".

Is this a fact? Can you really make your life into anything that you want it to be just by thinking about it happening? While science has not found a definite link between repetition of a thought, its connection with the subconscious and the role that it plays in a human's success, that has not stopped people from wondering. There are hundreds of programs out there intended to influence the subconscious and, in doing so, affect the way that they conscious mind reacts in an established situation.

The potential for success in this endeavor exists in that the human mind is greatly influenced by its perceptions and will often make a decision based upon its intuition and feelings regarding a certain matter rather than the established surrounding facts. This means that a person who is timid can program a confidence into their subconscious through the use of these methods, thereby allowing them to portray this confidence to the outside world. The people around them will respond in kind, believing their potential for success to be great based upon the attitude that they project.

How does this affect the laws of attraction of the human race? Take a moment to consider which individual is the most likely to gain your attention and interest, the one who sits quietly in the corner and does not seem to have much to say or the one that carries a confident demeanor and is willing to approach you and strike up a rapport? The simple fact of the matter is that confidence is sexy. People are attracted to people who appear to be comfortable with their lives and their place in it. This confidence will lead to attraction; attraction leads to not sitting home watching reruns on a Saturday night!

Is it true that you can influence your destiny through the power of the Law of Attraction? Certainly. That does not necessarily mean that the cosmos are going to align in order to make your every wish come true; however, with the power of positive thought you can change the way that you approach a situation and give yourself an exponentially greater chance to succeed.

Laws of Attraction Part IX

How to Raise Your Attraction Potential

The laws of attraction are clear; the choice of a mate is best determined by their ability to survive; once again, however, this is not the only factor to be considered when determining a human match. This leaves a great deal of leeway for the individual who has never quite been able to find their niche with the opposite sex. There are a few techniques that can be employed to exponentially raise their potential attraction.

1. Dress for success. It is very easy to forget over the course of a day that the way a person presents themselves is going to determine the opinion that others have of them. By selecting clothes that are comfortable but fit well and are in a style and color that are flattering to their appearance anyone, regardless of their preferred taste in clothes, can convey a positive impression to members of the opposite sex.

For those individuals who have never taken the time to discover what looks good on them, this is the time to do so. A clerk at any retail clothing shop will be happy to select clothing that will match the specific needs of their customers, and many have been in the business so long that they have developed a skilled eye for color and style. They are happy to loan their experience to ensuring that their customers put their best foot out the door-and bring their business back.

2. Develop a hobby. All too often in today's busy society our lives revolve around our work. This does not give us a great deal to converse with other people about. By developing a hobby the possibility of carrying on an interesting conversation increases exponentially. In addition, it will ensure that the other party in question know that the person they are dating has a well rounded personality and the ability to have fun. There is no worse reputation to develop on the dating market than that of a staid workaholic who is incapable of having a good time.

3. Keep up on current events and make an attempt to keep a hand in with all local events. Again, this will provide excellent conversation fodder and will prevent you from finding yourself sitting in a group at a social occasion without having a clue what the rest of the group is talking about.

4. Smile! By smiling and presenting a confident appearance when you first approach members of the opposite sex you will be creating an image of yourself as someone they want to get to know. Once they believe you are someone that they want to get to know, 3/4 of your battle is over. They will naturally seek out more information about you, and you will be well on your way to enjoying a mutually satisfactory relationship.

5. Attempt to place yourself in unfamiliar (but not uncomfortable) situations. This will serve the dual function of help you to become more comfortable in any situation as well as helping you to meet other people; there is nothing that attracts attention (in a positive way) than asking someone to show you the ropes of your current environment.

By utilizing all of these tricks you will guarantee that you will never find yourself at a loss for companionship again.

Laws of Attraction Part VI

When Opposites Attract

When working with magnets you will quickly learn that polar opposites attract. This means that the negatively charged pole will be attracted to the positively charged pole and the two will connect together with very little user effort. The same rule applies in chemistry. Negatively charged particles will be attracted to positively charged particles. Why? Because the negatively charged particles have something that the positively charged particles want.

The same is true of people. Sometimes people who are very similar join together and live a happy existence; they enjoy the same music, have the same values and do the same activities on Friday nights. They have the same group of friends and attend the same church every Sunday morning.

Sometimes this is not the case and two people who are polar opposites are drawn together. Usually this is because one or the other of them has something that the other wants. A person who is generally very cynical and pessimistic may be drawn to someone with a sense of eternal optimism. An individual who has spent their whole life following the rules dictated by society for proper behavior may be drawn to a free spirit who is content to live their life the way that they see fit, regardless of the opinions of others.

Such matches at times may prove to be volatile, resulting in an explosion and the secondary damages that go along with it. Other times they may balance each other, as in the case of the positively and negatively charged electrons; the particles are neutralized when they are mixed together. These matches have long since stumped psychologists and others looking at these relationships from a purely subjective viewpoint. How can two people who have nothing in common form a strong, successful relationship? What they do not realize is that it is simply yet another example of nature's own selection principles at work.

Forming a relationship with someone who is your polar opposite is not always going to be easy, regardless of how well you complement each other. You are going to have different viewpoints on different issues and different lifestyles to boot. The most important factors in these types of relationships are patience and understanding. Remember that you knew they were very different from you when you chose to embark on this relationship; you cannot expect them to change now.

Before you choose to permanently commit to someone who is your opposite there are a few questions you are going to need to answer. What are their differences in the things that matter? (home, children, etc.) Can you be happy with these differences? If the answer to the second question is no it would be wise to take a step back from the relationship before committing to something that you cannot step back from. If, on the other hand, the answer is yes prepare to enjoy a lifetime that, while it will never be smooth, will certainly never be boring.